Discovering Mental Strength: Why Pretending to Be Happy isn't the Answer

We all have heard the phrase "Fake it till you make it", which means projecting a happy front even when you are feeling miserable inside. While it may seem like a good coping mechanism, it can have long-term consequences on our mental and emotional well-being.

One of the primary consequences of appearing happy on the outside while feeling miserable on the inside is that it can lead to emotional suppression. When we suppress our emotions, we bottle up our feelings and avoid dealing with them. Over time, this can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and even depression. Bottling up our emotions can also make us feel disconnected from ourselves and those around us, affecting our relationships.

Another consequence of pretending to be happy is that it can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. When we feel miserable inside, we may avoid social situations and isolate ourselves from others. This can cause us to feel like we are alone in our struggles and that nobody understands us. It can also prevent us from seeking help and support from others, which can further exacerbate our problems.

And…

Pretending to be happy is EXHAUSTING!

It requires a lot of energy to maintain a facade and keep up appearances. This can lead to burnout, fatigue, and a general feeling of being overwhelmed. When we are constantly trying to hide our true emotions, we may also struggle to find ways to cope with our problems effectively.

Appearing happy on the outside can create unrealistic expectations from those around us. When we are always smiling and seem to be doing well, people may assume that we have everything figured out, and we don’t need any help or support. This can make it challenging to reach out for help when we need it, as we may feel like we will disappoint or surprise people if we reveal our true feelings.

It’s crucial to prioritize our emotional well-being and find healthy ways to deal with our feelings. Seeking help from an experienced coach, therapist, a trusted friend or family member can be an excellent way to start. 

It's okay NOT to be okay, and there is no shame in asking for help and support.

Being authentic means being honest even when you feel sad.